"She's My Person."

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"She's my person. If I murdered someone, she's the person I'd call to help me drag the corpse across the livingroom floor. She's my person."
                                                                                    - Dr. Yang "Grey's Anatomy"
(It was at this moment, the water works started. - you'll understand what I mean shortly)
Now while I don't plan on murdering anybody in the near future (or ever- stay tuned just in case!), the message overall still stands true when it comes to one of the, if not THE biggest support in my life. My Auntie Lisa.
Now to tell my story, especially the medical portion and some of the most significant, scary parts of it, you must know who this woman is, what she means to me and the absolutely vital role she plays in this. When you read these blogs I need you to understand the significance of her place in my life, you will hear of many people that I love, that I know and support me, some even multiple times. But I can promise you this. Her name, will NOT be lost in the shuffle.

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